Would you treat your beloved the same way on your day of divorce as you treated them on your wedding day? Why? Because you needed a relational structure to fool yourself that you are a loving person.
If you are that full of love, why would you treat the same person one way when you agree and differently when you disagree? Did you really love them or it was only the convenience of the relationship you were interested in?
When somebody’s relationship title changes, like from “my husband” to “her husband”, why would your love for them change too? Were you in love with the person or with the title, “my husband?”
Understand that a relationship is very different from love.
The relationship is a structure, and love is unstructured. So love relates, certainly, but never becomes a relationship. Love is a moment-to-moment process. Remember it.
Love is a state of your being, not a relationship. There are loving people and there are unloving people. Unloving people pretend to be loving through the relationship. Loving people need not have any relationship – love is enough.
Be a loving person rather than in a love relationship – because relationships happen one day and disappear another day. They are flowers; in the morning they bloom, by the evening they are gone.
But people find it very difficult to be a loving person, so they create a relationship – and befool that way that “Now I am a loving person because I am in a relationship.” And the relationship may be just one of monopoly, possessiveness, exclusiveness.
The relationship may be just out of fear, may not have anything to do with love. the relationship maybe just a kind of security – financial or something else. The relationship is needed only because love is not there. the relationship is a substitute.
Become alert! Relationship destroys love, destroys the very possibility of its birth.