By Steve Mutua
Every experienced counselor or coach will tell you that the number of complaints you have about your partner is directly proportional to the number of truths you’re withholding.
When you complain, you are essentially diverting attention from yourself and your own issues; you’re focusing entirely on what your mate is or isn’t doing. It’s very convenient to focus on your mate – it keeps you from looking at the parts of yourself you don’t especially like.
And your partner is doing exactly the same. So it’s a battle of projection rather than dealing with what’s real.
Think about it