By Steve Mutua
A person who wants respect has no respect for himself, yet he wants respect from others. He who has no respect for himself wants others to cover it, to hide his lack of respect.
This desire for respect is the sign that you feel disrespect for yourself within. You have the feeling that you are nothing. Others should make you into something, should put you on a throne, should raise banners for you, should hoist flags in your name — others should do something! You are a beggar.
You have already insulted yourself when you wanted respect. And this insult goes on deepening.
Lao Tzu says: “No one can insult me because I don’t want respect.” This is attaining true respect.
Lao Tzu says: “No one can defeat me because I have dropped the very idea of winning. How can you defeat me? You can only defeat one who wants to win.”
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