If you married to please your parents or to escape from your parents, you will transfer the feelings you had for your parents onto your spouse and this will breed conflict with your spouse because you will want him or her to take the place of your parent(s).
Until you are really psychologically free of your parents, you will recreate the same scenario you had with your parents with your spouse. This is all a very unconscious process, that is, you are unaware of it.
You must “leave” your parents for you to appreciate your spouse for the unique person they are.
You must outgrow the need to please or to punish your parents if you are to build a fulfilling relationship with another person. This is maturity. Maturity is not just physical independence from your parents but psychological independence too.