OVERCOME FEAR BY FACING IT
If you want happiness because you fear unhappiness, happiness remains unreachable. If you want happiness for its own sake, and not because you fear its absence, nothing will block its attainment. And this is an enormous difference.
As long as you have fear, it is sometimes inevitable that you experience what you fear in order to lose the fear. If fear can be shed by realizing the truth that there is no reason to fear, then it is not necessary to experience it. But you are often incapable of this insight, so you must familiarize yourself with the feared circumstances until they lose their threatening aspect.
As long as you want the positive mainly because you fear the negative, your fear barricades the way to the positive. The planet Earth, this sphere of duality consciousness, is characterized by the desire of the positive not for itself but for the fear of its negative opposite.
For example, it is impossible to truly love life as long as one fears death. This can be constantly corroborated when observing human reactions. The more a person lives with gusto and joy, the less he or she fears death.
The more people shrink in fear from death, the more they cling to life, not because they enjoy life or because they are dynamically related to it, but in order to avoid death. Such people really do not live at all.
Fear of death and dying prohibits one from living, and only by deeply living can you learn that life is one unending process, and dying is a temporary illusion. If one clings to life because of the fear of death, life will not be meaningful, nor can it be pleasurable.
Needless to say, this is, as always, a question of degree. Since hardly anyone is completely free of the fear of death — otherwise they would not be incarnated in this sphere of being — there is hardly anyone who truly lives. But some are relatively free from this fear and therefore live meaningful and pleasurable lives.
Since it is almost impossible for the average soul to realize that death is not to be feared, it has to go through cycles and cycles of embodiments, one after the other, learning to die until dying is no longer a frightening experience. When the fear of dying is overcome, life eternal is possible; as long as it is feared, dying must be gone through.