By yoana kim
Friends or associate?
Many people in the world grapple to make friends but sustaining a friendship has been a toll order for decade.
A professor who taught me at Seku University told me making friends is not an issue but having buddies or friends who will respond to you during the the time of needs is what counts.
Now this makes think ” Never ask, “Who is my real friend?” Ask, “Am I a real friend to somebody?” That is the right question. Why are you worried about others — whether they are friends to you or not?
The proverb is: A friend in need is a friend indeed. But deep down that is greed! That is not friendship, that is not love. You want to use the other as a means, and no man is a means, every man is an end unto himself.
Why do people get so worried about who is a real friend? Simply because themselves are not sincere.
Why are you worried? Are you sincere to others? People who are full of themselves can not keep friends.
The real question has to be: Am I friendly to people? Do you know what friendship is? It is the highest form of love. In love, some lust is bound to be there; in friendship, all lust disappears. In friendship nothing gross remains; it becomes absolutely subtle.
It is not a question of using the other, it is not even a question of needing the other, it is a question of sharing.
You have too much and you would like to share. And whosoever is ready to share your joy with you, your dance, your song, you will be grateful to him, you will feel obliged. Not that he is obliged to you, not that he should feel thankful to you because you have given so much to him.
A friend never thinks in that way. A friend always feels grateful to those people who allow him to love them, to give them whatsoever he has got..
Think about it.